Humans are social creatures and our connections to others creates the social foundation reminding us that we are a part of something greater than ourselves. Friendships are organic bonds evolving, shifting, changing and growing naturally between two people. But sometimes the path ends and the journey is over...the relationship has run its course and must now be allowed to fade with dignity.
Over the past few years I’ve undertaken major changes in my life. Some of these changes are the natural progression of my goals while others were simply the result of growing as a person. As with any change, people became unsettled and confused, unsure of how to relate to who I am now. Others rebelled against my new direction and clung to the hope that I will return to the person I once was, but can never be again.
It was a struggle at first, but what I have found is that not everyone is meant to walk with you throughout your personal journey. Everyone has their own path and as much as it may hurt to leave some friendships behind, you really aren’t losing them. Every person that you have shared time with has changed you, influenced who you are now, impacted how you see the world. Every moment of love that you have experienced has brought you closer to the person you are meant to be; an important part of them will remain forever interwoven into your very existence.
Celebrate those moments, cherish the memories and reserve a place of gratitude in your heart for the gifts they have offered you, but do not linger. It is okay to move on with your life without bathing in the guilt of growing. No one has the right to hold us back from embracing that which is most meaningful to us, whether they understand or not.
Yes, most of those who have loved you and cheered you on will continue to do so. Most of those friendships forged through years of shared devotion shall remain until the end of our lives, yet the loss of even one can move us to moments of great sorrow. Grieve if you must, but I urge you to honor those shared experiences with joy and gratitude as you continue on your path.
I do not give up my friendships easily. I am devoted to each of you, loyal through the best and worst of times. However, for all of those who are taking a different path and can no longer walk with me, I wish you well on your own journey. I pray you will find peace, love, and joy in your life. Thanks for helping me become a better me, and don’t ever forget that you are necessary and you are loved.
